Unfortunately, the end of school also marks one of the most dreaded moments in the academic year: the summer-long-distance-relationship.
Depending on where you live, and if he’s interested in the whole Temporary-But-Not-LDR, summer will be the first huge span of time that you’re away from your significant other. That’s three long months ladies, and you’ll start to feel it. Trust me.
BUT WAIT! STOP YOUR KIM KARDASHIAN CRYING, GIRLS. (You know the one.)
It can be done! You can do this! (If you both want to, of course.) My tips for getting through (and actually enjoying) summer with a Temporary LDR? I thought you’d never ask!
Get Talking: Please be on the same page! Know the expectations for the relationship, and that involves talking. You gotta talk it out. Can you see other people? What is cheating? What isn’t? Will you text every day? Every few days? Once a week? Do you want to Skype? Visit each other at home? These are all important things to consider, and there’s no right or wrong way to answer any of them. Every relationship is fabulously different, and that’s the beauty (and turmoil) of romance.
Get Creative!: It can be boring just texting the same person about the same things. So try to do things together even while you’re apart! My boyfriend and I watch the same TV show at the same time, and text-talk through it, like “Oh that was so cool!” or “Did not see that coming at all.” Make a movie list and work your way through it, and talk about what you liked and didn’t like. Send snail mail. Do a Post Secret-type of deal, where you collect postcards from your hometown and write your favorite things about the other person on the other side. They’ll get to know where you live, and you'll stay on their mind.
Get Out: Sometimes you just have to take a break from them, too. Being in an LDR doesn’t mean you have to talk all the time, and you shouldn’t feel pressured to text him to keep yourself on his mind. Leave the phone at home for the day while you hit the beach, or agree on times where you say goodnight early and do other things (bragging rights: proud to say my boyfriend and I are pretty killer at this. It’s impressive. KAY DONE.)
Get Thinking: If it ends up being an issue, talk about it. Distance is hard, and it’s okay to admit that it’s just not working. Admire the fact that you gave it your best shot, and then move on. Don’t cling to something just because it’s *something*-- you may miss something better.
That’s all I can tell ya. From my experience (and my friends’ experiences), some relationships were meant to withstand distance, and some aren’t. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong; it just means that one chapter might have to end. (If that’s the case, check out my article on breakups. And let me hug you.)
You can do this! Summer is a time to feel the wind in your hair, the sun on your face and to forget about all the responsibilities and troubles of school work (Unless you’re me, and you’re taking a biology class. Meh). Remember: if you’re not having fun, it isn’t working. Of course not every relationship is easy, but if it feels more like work and less like fun, perhaps you need to revaluate.
I believe in you, College Glossers! Go forth and rock your Temporary LDR like nobody’s business!
By: Alise Murawski | Image: Source