How to Help a Friend Through a Breakup


Well the day has come; your best friend’s boyfriend is now officially her ex. Before you go rile up your crew of girls to hunt him down and make him pay, remember that right now is the time to be the ultimate best friend. It’s not going to be easy for either of you, since there are no real rules in how to mend a broken heart. Here are some ‘Breakup Guidelines’ to help you get your friend from feeling miserable to being single and ready to mingle!

If She Dumped Him: For one reason or another, your bestie decided to dump her beau, and you have probably been riding this heartbreak wave ever since she started to think about breaking up with him. After she takes the big step and follows through with ending the relationship, there are a few things you can do to help her mend her broken heart:

1. Make sure she remembers WHY she broke up with him.
After breaking up, the idea of being single again can seem very lonely and scary. Your friend will be in a vulnerable state where she might fall back on her decisions. If she starts to regret breaking up with her ex, sit down with her and reflect on why she broke up with him in the first place. Sometimes just remembering why she took the actions she did will be reinforcement that she made the right decision.

2. Reassure her that there is someone out there who will treat her better.
Your heartbroken friend will most likely be swimming in a pool of memories that she made with her ex-boyfriend. You may have to reel her in from the “happy days” of a relationship that is long gone. Let her know that there are about 3.4 billion men in the world, so there are plenty of fish in the sea. And as sappy as this might sound, a lot of those “fish” that you catch need to be thrown back because they just don’t treat you the way you deserve.

3. Help her keep the distance from her ex.
Once your friend changes her status from “in a relationship” to “single” on good ol’ Facebook, encourage her to possibly restrict the content she sees from her ex or even unfriend him all together. Going through old pictures and old conversations whether on the Internet or on her phone will only make it easier for her to reach out to him when everything is too fresh and emotions are too high.

If She Got Dumped: Whether it was out of the blue or she saw it coming, your friend getting dumped will not make the healing process that easy. Prepare yourself to be patient and level-headed, as she will be emotional and full of questions. Although the challenge of helping your friend get over this sudden heartbreak might seem daunting, here are a few ideas of how you can help her smile through this mess:

1. Make her a heartbreak gift box.
Grab an empty shoebox and decorate it with cutouts from her favorite magazines, funny pictures of you and her together and lyrics from her favorite Taylor Swift songs. It really doesn’t matter what you put on there; just make the box scream her name. Then fill it with chocolate, a new magazine, or my personal favorite, a container of taco dip. All those goodies in a beautiful box? That will be sure to make her smile. (It certainly made me smile... you two know who you are, thank you)!

2. Cry it out.
It isn’t glamorous, and when the chocolate stash dwindles down and the whole reality of your friend getting dumped hits her again ... just let her know she can let it out. Watching your friend cry, or anyone cry for that matter, isn’t a very comfortable position. But sometimes the best relief can come from a good cry. So grab some tissues, lend her your shoulder, and don’t be alarmed if you find your sleeve soaking wet from her tears. Let her know that crying isn’t a weakness; it’s a strength to be able to feel such deep emotions and to be able to let them out.

3. Get her out of the house.
If you know your friend is sitting alone in her bed scrolling through the never-ending pictures of cute couples on Tumblr while crying into her bowl of cereal, then you need to get her out of that house. Even if this means dragging her butt out of bed with her arms flailing around in protest. Pick out a cute outfit, do her makeup, make her feel beautiful even if she feels like crap. Then roll the windows down, pump some Demi Lovato songs through your radio, (I recommend Demi’s song "I Really Don’t Care" feat. Cher Lloyd), and drive around town. Get her mind off her broken heart. Even if it’s for just a few hours, it will mean a lot to her in the long run.

Just being by your friend’s side through such a tough transition in her life will really help her move forward. No matter the type of breakup, always listen, ask her how she is doing, and make sure she knows that she’s strong.

The last point is something I find really important. Strength is often not seen in the eyes of the beholder. Or in other words, your friend may fail to see how strong she is in going through all the emotions and pain of a break up. So let her know that she is so strong, even if she says she feels so weak.

I’ve found that we become our strongest when we feel our weakest. And the best companions in life are the ones who help you heal even if they aren’t the ones who hurt you.

So go be that companion, that best friend, that healer, and let your friend know that sometimes we all need to kiss a lot of frogs before we find our prince.

By: Kaity Martin | Image: Source

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  1. I saw a testimony of Nadezhda Vyacheslav on how she got that guy to love her as she did him.Though i don't know her, i believed her cos she said Mutton Osun a spell caster help her seen it happen.I didn't believe her cos she used a spell i believed her cos she made mention of a mutual spell caster i know of that is mutton Osun. I have also see a lot of testimony about his work on the the internet on blog pages and so on.I literally took a lip of faith to contact him and it turn out that it paid off.In my own case i didn't ask that him to make anyone fall in love with me or ask that my cheating wife comes back.This time i was at fault i messed up.Will really like to say it was an honest mistake or a few hours or days of weakness but then i will be insulting my wife and the love i feel for her.I was in full control of what i was doing i had the choice not to cheat but i still did. She didn't find out by herself i told hoping if i told her how sorry i am and how much i still love and want to be with her despite my betray she will forgive completely.It was the biggest mistake of my life maybe i should not have told her, i guess she would have still found out if she didn't catch me then i bet the other lady would have told her what was going on to destroy what me and my wife had.It was obvious my betray really hurt her i could she it in her eye and i was really sorry.That is why i wasn't so surprise when she asked that we go our separate ways.There and then i realized that i was following the part that ruined my life and my family.I literally lead four month of my life in misery.I have never felt like i needed her like i had felt begging was not an option nothing was an option cos she was gone.It was right about that time Mutton Osun came into the picture or when i asked that he help me get my wife to love as she did before.I was able to provide the items he asked that i get for the spell and send then down to him.Like Nadezhda Vyacheslav said "the spell does become effective at once that " she was right also cos just after i did what Mutton Osun asked me to do with what he sent me, it took 7 days before anything happened i even thought for a minute that i had met a fake spell caster but in the end i am happy with my wife again.We going to be renewing our vows on the 20th of September. I was on the edge of become a walking dead a woman with nothing to live for thank my star Mutton Osun helped.I will also leave his contact for those who thing he can help them { godsofosunx@rocketmail.com }

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